Can you believe it? The head teacher of a London primary school has said he thinks you should be discouraged from having a best friend at school.
Of course, he comes up with some reasons why he thinks he makes sense, such as
- other girls might feel excluded
- when there’s a split-up you might feel very upset
But surely dealing with those kind of things is all part of growing up? Of learning how to be a social person, how to cope with the world.
Not that I think that all girls should have ONE best friend. I think it’s up to the individuals to work out what’s best for them. Sometimes my daughter, Keira, had a best friend. First there was Katy, then there was Jan. Then for a while there was just a big group of girls she went around with, until, when she was about fourteen, and English girl called Elizabeth started at her school. Soon Keira and Elizabeth became inseparable. Many years on, even though Elizabeth now lives in London and Keira lives in Scotland, they’re still in touch, still friends.
And in my books Sassy, Cordelia and Taslima are best friends. Has that silly headteacher never heard of having two bezzies? And they do their best to include Megan, because they know she feels left out sometimes. Maybe we need to get that headteacher to read Seriously Sassy? Or maybe he just needs to grow up a bit and stop trying to interfere in his pupils’ social life!
But maybe you’ve always felt a bit left out? Through no fault of your own you’ve not yet met that one special friend you can really fool around with, have a giggle with. That one person you feel you can trust with your worries and your secrets?
Now I’m all grown up I have quite a few women I regard as being very close friends. Of course, I’ve moved house a few times, as have my friends, so over the years you grow closer to some people, and you don’t see others as often as you’d like to. Just recently I met someone who is fast becoming a close friend. So even if you haven’t made a ‘best friend’ just yet, and would like to, don’t despair. As you go through life you will meet, more than once, someone you get on just swimmingly with!
There are so many brilliant friendships in stories. How many can you name?
Cool there’s a similar post here:
Oops! Yes, I wrote mine last week… Guess we both had the same idea. 🙂
That man has no idea. I’m being bullied at the moment but i have a couple of bezzies who would die for me and without them i probably would have moved schools.
Hope things improve soon and those girls stop being so stupid! Thank goodness you have your bezzies. 🙂 x
Hey Magi. Who’s your new close friend? (look at me, i’m nosy!) I like Sassy and her two friends. Lauren, Mel and Jessica from My Secret Unicorn books, and Myself and my close friends, You, Angela and Linda and Shell. x
Hi Laura, Thanks for your fictional friends suggestions. I’ve not read the My Secret Unicorn books but they sound fab. My new close friend is a woman my age who lives nearby and we both love books and poetry and art. And of course, like you, I’m part of the Glasgow Women’s Library family where we’re all friends! Hope to see you next Thursday. 😀 x
Until I started secondary school, I didn’t really have a best friend….I was very tomboy-ish (still am) when I was small and normally played soccer with the lads in my class and was simply put down as one of the boys but when I started secondary school I immediately found a really close friend. There’s a friend for everyone
You sound like my daughter Keira! (The one in the photo.) She played football with boys at school – and still does. The photo above is of Keira and her friend who both play every week with men. Keira’s thirty now! Oh, and I was a bit of a tomboy too and loved all kinds of sports. 😀 x
I had a group of friends for ages and we were perfectly happy as a group, in fact in all my stages of growing up I had groups of friends. Even now I have 2 best best best friends and a circle of close friends. I think it’s the best way. 😀
I always had a best friend, but within a wider group too. It’s always been important to me to have someone I’m very close to. I guess we’re all different, and that’s a good thing. But no one should be saying that either way is wrong. 😀
I agree, as long as you are happy then do it your way! Friends are good however they come. 😀